Why Do We Play With Fire?
The on-again/ off-again relationship seems to be in vogue. Everybody is doing it: Jude and Sienna, Prince Harry and Chelsy, Madonna and Tracey Anderson. And the reason doesn’t seem to be just out of convenience. (A movie role, a royal wedding invitation or bigger biceps anyone?) If humans have such a highly developed brain, in relationships, why do we play with fire when we know we will get burned?
What makes an ex so irresistible that we are willing to cycle through the stages of a relationship again and again with them? (The last stage being complete heartbreak.) Is it addiction, passion, comfort, loneliness, or just complete stupidity?
If you are doing this now, you are not alone. According to a study from the University of Texas, over 60% of adults have found themselves in this type of relationship. 3/4ths of the people in the study had been through the break-up/make-up cycle more than twice!
Although few things can be better than make-up sex, remember this the next time you are contemplating changing your status to “On-again:” Don’t forget the burn. When you are young and you touch a fire, it blisters, burns, and you learn not to touch it again. We somehow forget that lesson when an ex comes back into our lives. We get caught up in the heat of the moment. We literally build a fire that we will one day burn ourselves with.
Next time your ex shows up, ask yourself, do you really want to get blistered and burned (Again), or is it finally time to move on?
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